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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I think this was well stated. It's absolutely vital to tell the kids the truth because they will ask why they are divorcing. Why is dad living with Suzie? Why do I have to share my dad and toys with Suzie's kids? Etc. Etc.

One can be honest, but not giving out marriage details or as someone suggested not using your child as a therapist. That's totally wrong. So is bad mouthing the other parent - the kids will form their own opinions.

If he ends up with the AP I don't see a reason OP would have to talk to her. Only talk to the ex about the kids.[/quote]

For the last time:  Because your kid is not your therapist.  Because this is how most conversations would go:

Mom: dad is living with Suzie because he slept with her and I kicked him out
Dad: I slept with Suzie because mom cut-off all physical affection
Mom: I cut off affection because dad didn't meet my emotional needs
Dad: I was busy working because mom decided to downscale at work and ran up some unnecessary spending

You get the point.  Seriously, there are always two sides to this.  Your kid isn't the ref.  Grow up.
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But that is not how it actually plays out ... it plays out like this.

Kid: I met Suzie.
Mom: Oh, okay how was it?
Kid: &lt;are we really going to pretend&gt;
Mom: Okay, I know about Suzie, I'm sorry I did not warn you.
Kid: Yea, it was terrible and the only parent I trust now lied to me.

Mom: Your going to dads, your going to meet Suzie... she is dad's girlfriend.
Kid: Since when
Mom: Since a while ago.
kid: crying
Mom: I know it 's hard but dad made a mistake and now this is our life and we will work it out.
Kid: I don't want to go
Mom: I know it sucks, be nice, go to your room and read when it's too much.

Kid: You cheated on mom
Dad: mom is a bitch and bad in bed.
Kids: &lt;okay you are a psycho, enjoy the nursing home&gt;

Kid: Dad actually said you were a bitch and bad in bed
Mom: Well I guess I'm better off without him and you know exactly what I've dealt with for years.
Kid: That sucks
Mom: Yep! But we move on from "sucks"[/quote]

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