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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of very, very angry and self-defensive people on this tread, or it's the same poster or 2-3 posters repeating themselves over and over again.

I'm long out of college but I'm also old enough to know that every person matures at different rates. There's an obtuse silliness to demand that as soon as someone turns 18 the parents must back away at all costs, the way some of the posters on here are suggesting. Life is much more complicated than that. The ages of 18-25 is very much a case of what works for one person doesn't work for another. Most 18 year olds are not really adults in the proper sense of the world, most won't really fully become adults for another decade. And college is a serious investment these days, far more so than even just 20 years ago. Parents who are helping to pay the expenses have a huge amount of money - their money - at stake as well.

I don't claim to know what the best answer to the situation is but treating it as a binary and ranting and screaming and calling people morons for suggesting parents remain more involved with colleges is not helpful. [/quote]

The problem is, it is binary.  Institutions are not permitted to provide personal information, including health information and information about grades, to parents.  That's it.  It doesn't matter who is paying.  If you don't like it, change the law, but don't ask or expect colleges to court liability by breaking the current law.

This is different than "remaining involved" - parents should remain involved.  But this is about what a university should, and is permitted, to share with parents.

It's been explained numerous times on this thread.  If you haven't grasped it, then yes, you are a moron.  [/quote]

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