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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She didn't lie to you unless you asked her about it and she said no.  Let it go.  What would be the point of a confrontation now?[/quote]

I agree.  She obviously didn’t hide it.  LET.IT.GO

And why give a bad reference if she took good care of your son....that’s what’s important.

Why did she leave?[/quote]

OP can give an honest reference if asked, which is that while the nanny gave good care overall, there were times you were less than happy with her judgement (i.e. bringing her kid to her house when moving, when you explicitly said no).  Some people would hire the nanny anyway, particularly for an older kid where people are less concerned.[/quote]

Agree. I’d be one of those moms that would be ok with a few times of her taking kid over. Yes, I suspect nanny might not have been 100 percent focused on just childcare if she had to go over to her apartment to take care of something. But the fact nanny didn’t try to hide it tells me she didn’t think it was a big deal. You might be in a professional job where every minute or hour of your time had to be accounted for. I started out at Biglaw billing in 6 minute increments. I could not bill for the time I went to the bathroom, the time I read emails from firm members that weren’t directly tied to a client matter. Of course I couldn’t and didn’t bill for time if I had to check my own personal email, take a personal phone call, run an errand. At least I have the means to take care of stuff (simply don’t bill for that time), but when can nannies take care of little things here and there? If she has to go to the bank she has to use one that has Sat morning hours, else she can’t before or after her work hours. If the nanny had said, hey, I cannot be available for two hours in the middle of the day on this date due to a moving thing, would you have hired a second person to cover those hours? I know that it’s the fact that nanny went against what you forbid her to do, but I really think even “professional nannies” don’t have the mindset that five minutes or thirty minutes doing something personal (using their phones) is “stealing” time and money, like new attorneys and others are trained to think. Three years is a very long time, life happens. I think you were pretty lucky that you had that stability and no reason to have to hire someone new. You can tell the new employer but it would not affect me or prevent me from hiring that nanny. [/quote]

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