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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Nothing obscenely expensive, just nice and safe. Oldest daughter got a new Jeep Wrangler, son wanted my husband's 2017 Tahoe (which we bought new, then husband upgraded to a 2019), and 15 year old daughter really wants the cute little Volvo SUV. [/quote]

My DH and HS senior DS share a 2012 Forester with 60,000 miles on it.  It works out fine since DH takes metro or rides his bike to work.  He may upgrade before DS is finished with college and maybe DS will get the car then.  I don't know, maybe we're just not car people - we have a tendency to just drive them into the ground.  We just bought DS a new instrument that cost more than our car.

I'm sure that your kids appreciate that you can afford to spend a quarter of a million dollars on cars and aren't spoiled because of it.  Will they keep these cars, or will you get them something nicer when they graduate from college?[/quote]

Your post is not relevant given you spend more on a fancy instrument than a car.  What is the difference?  He doesn't need an instrument costing thousands.  That would be spoiled too.[/quote]

I am not that poster but I would disagree with this statement.  Music isn't your thing, that it is okay.  [/quote]

+1. If you have a kid headed to a conservatory, they need the sound quality of a more expensive instrument.  I’m not a musician, but my kids are, and I am shocked by the differences in sound quality.  And some types of instruments are much more expensive than others. My kid started at clarinet and now play bass clarinet and ouch. It’s a life long investment for their profession that should not depreciate if properly cared for. [/quote]

There is a quailty difference but to they really need it at a young age.  No, they don't need it, you or they want it.  They can learn to play equally with less expensive equipment.  Nothing wrong with buying it for them but its the same thing.[/quote]

But if we’re talking about 16 year olds, and not 6 year olds, of driving age and on the teen board, then they have been playing several hours a week  for 10 years when you make the purchase and the sound difference matters.  I agree that buying a $5000 instrument of anyone who is 6 except a music prodigy is ridiculous.

We rented from grades 3-7, bought a very nice but not professional instrument for $1000 when DC upgraded to a more serious teacher and commitment in 8th.  Kid is now a junior and looking seriously at colleges with strong music (Oberlin, Rochester, Case Western, St. Olaf) as secondary/ a minor/ serious EC as a part of the orchestra to a primary STEM field in college. He has asked us to bump him up to a professional instrument for college which hits $5000 as his high school graduation gift (although we could likely sell the instrument he has now for close to what we purchased it for to offset the cost). Depending on where he ends up for college and how the finances work out.

Now, my kid does not play a particularly expensive instrument. There are some instruments where you would be getting into new car territory.  In 5hid case, I see it as different than a car, because there is a direct correlation. You work hard at something for a decade, through lots of tedious practice and become really good at it, you get to play a nicer instrument. And musicians seem to get a lot of joy out of playing high quality instruments.  They know they are lucky to have the nice instrument, because they spent years learning on the $40/ month student rental.  A beginner is going to screech either way.  We aren’t athletes in my family, but I would use the same rationale to invest money is high quality athletic equipment for a high school varsity player, and even more money for a kid playing at the college level.

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My DH played guitar in a garage band and his dad bought him a 15k Gibson. Also a new car to drive to gigs.[/quote]

My elementary school child has decent gear as it sound and plays better and I have to listen to it.  I don't see the issue with either.[/quote]

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