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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes this is rude. You asked her to hang out with you and she essentially responded, without any qualification, that she does not want to get together with you. In the absence of any explanation as to why she cannot get together, she’s making it clear that she just has no interest in your company.

I think it’s totally fine for her to not want to hang out, but most people have manners to at least thank the person for the invite and decline in a polite manner. She doesn’t even need to make a fake promise of a future play date. A simple “Thank you for the invite, but we are unable to attend” would be appropriate.

My guess is either she is incredibly socially awkward and does not want a large social network, she is one of those mommy group mean girls who likes to form cliques, or you have inadvertently offended her/come on too strong with the initial friendship. Regardless, I’d avoid her from here on out. If she ever called for a neighborly favor I’d “decline.” [/quote]

"No" is a complete sentence. I agree that saying "thank you for the invite" is more gracious, but the message of no is perfectly fine. In fact, I think the OP is incredibly socially awkward if she couldn't take a clue from the clear pattern of non-responses and non-attendance (i.e. fading out), and kept persisting until being flat out told off.  [/quote]

I agree with this completely.  OP, she may have been blunt (what you think is rude) but she tried being subtle and not responding to your previous texts.  She didn't respond.  Then you texted again.  She didn't respond (again).  You didn't get the hint.  For everyone saying this person was rude, I'm betting dollars to donuts that if she was "polite" and said "thanks so much, but we can't.  maybe some other time." you know the OP would be texting her over and over again until she got her playdate.

OP - you HAVE to start taking the hint and realizing when someone is letting you down gently.  [/quote]

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