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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should ask the mutual friend who may know her better.[/quote]

I didn't want to gossip. "Hey, does Susan not like me?"

I did send mutual friend (MT) a message. "I do not want to you to get involved, but I get the sense that Susan doesn't want to hang out with me. You are important to us, and I hope we can still hang out! I hope you can manage two separate play dates in week, haha" :) And she responded with "I sure can! two in a week is not a problem but two in a day are!"[/quote]

I’d take that as a pretty solid admission that your mutual friend knows the person dislikes you. I even think her response is a little rude to be honest. “I. Can’t hang out with you and her on the same day and I’ve chosen her” is the impression I’m reading [/quote]

+1 The friend's response here is strange. And it makes me wonder if there is a backstory you are not providing, OP? I mean, did the original friend with whom you have a standing playdate suggest that you cease meeting b/c of the other playdate with her other friend...and then you took it upon yourself to suggest combining them?
I feel like we (or you) are missing something here? Like two things strike me: 1--the friend did not say "texts are so weird...I'm sure she just values our Monday time and we can all meet up together some other time" or anything else to try to get you off the "I don't think she wants to hang with me" trail. And 2--she is signaling here that you are too much somehow. I would be cautious about proceeding with either one.[/quote]

All this neighborly drama is amazing to me. All of it. It’s all extra.

And OP, saying I don’t want to get you invoked implies there was an issue to discuss. If you didn’t want to involve her, you wouldn’t. You’d simply take the high road and coordinate independently with your mutual friend. Why tattle on the new neighbor and sat I hope we can still be friends? Your relationship with Ms Mutual is independent of Ms No Neighbir. Why not simply ask Ms Mutual, “Are we still confirmed for Monday?” And accept Ms No’s decline without mention? And you’re being gossipy here, asking whether to drop it?

I think your mutual friend may be icing you out. This is why communicating directly without challenging someone else is important; it reduces the likelihood of miscommunications and subjective interpretations in the appropriateness if the response. And perhaps that’s why Ms No declined your invite in the manner that she did.[/quote]

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