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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am trying. I have decided to extend my stay with family. I was going to come back early so we could all do something together. I am working on finding a therapist who can help me with this issue. I want to make sure. I am not being reasonable and fair. Just really feel at a loss t this point
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The problem is your guys have different priorities. Spending time with his family is not important to him. Or if it is, you need to sit down together and work out a way for him to leave because in his current job it won’t change. My husband and I both did biglaw for 5 years each. I’ve seen this dynamic a lot. It’s why we both left for the government before having kids. It’s important to us both to have time as a family. We have family dinner every night. Then we both work some more. But we were able to forego the biglaw salaries because we had other priorities and we worked out a plan to achieve them. Only your husband knows if that is something he wants to do. That’s the conversation you need to have with him - a conversation about where you both see your life going, not whether he can do a call on a particular day.

Also, for those who said government doesn’t pay well, it’s not biglaw but by any other measure it’s fine. After 8 years we are both gs15 and pulling in about 300k gross combined, which isn’t flashy but is enough to send 2 kids to good public schools. And we work 45-50 hour weeks instead of 70-80. [/quote]

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