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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This has never been an issue in my friend group. I think I have attended maybe 5 weddings with kids of about 40-50 total. Most (fun) weddings are not really kid appropriate (drunk people, late past midnight, bawdy humor, long afterparties, far too elegant and refined, etc.) Nobody needs a throng of kids running through the Four Seasons or being tripped over by tipsy  attendees.

Polite hosts often will offer limited babysitting for the kids, a couple gets parents or family friends to take care of kids over the weekend, or only one parent travels. People would kind of understand if a couple with kids doesn't make it because of kids but also not really? Since most  of the attendees (at least in your 30s) have kids and 80% of them are able to make it, one or both. They generally show up ready to party (potentially solo) usually 10x harder than those without kids.

As one example, as the MOH in my sister's wedding, if she had invited kids it would have been 150 adults and about 50 kids. That's not a wedding, that's a daycare. [b]Weddings are meant to be a fun time for adults.[/b] I didn't attend a single wedding until I was 25 years old.

I'm also from NYC like a PP if that has anything to do with it. [/quote]

Actually, weddings are MEANT to be a celebration of the union of two people, and by extension, their families.  But whatever.  The point is people can have whatever type of wedding celebration they want, and people can choose to attend or not based on whatever factors they want, too.  And- at least in my circle- everyone is reasonable about it and no one begrudges anyone for what they choose to do on either end. [/quote]

Exactly! Weddings aren’t meant to be “a fun time for adults.” For most of history until very recently weddings have been an event like Easter or Christmas - a daytime thing that’s mostly about family, held in a church hall/community center/someone’s house. Now everyone’s decided the “traditional wedding” is an evening black tie gala. In the Emily Post wedding book she talks about how she wishes people would go back to the simple daytime wedding.[/quote]

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