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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I'm also a mom who has an estranged ds. I have several other children, also. Ds is married.

Like the author of the article, the trouble began when the ds married. Unfortunately, dil has some signifigent mental health issues. Ds likely does as well, his biological father did so sometimes that happens.

One example of this is-their first Christmas, they were in temporary housing for college, and I got her a nice present for her beloved pet. In fact, I drove a long distance to purchase this-with my own then-newborn baby along-knowing that they had limited space and finances. Plus, they had mentioned this item for the pet and I was excited to buy it for her.

I then got a phone call from ds, questioning why I had gotten a present for pet and not dil? I could hear her in the backround of this call. I really did not know what to say.

They distanced themselves after this, and I am fine with that. Unlike the lady in the article, I'm not too upset, and I realize the problem is not with me-it's their mental illnesses. I can't take ownership of that.

I told the other kids (all young adults except for the little one) they of course can have any relationship they want with ds. One talks occasionally, the others choose none. I do not allow any contact with the little one-I won't expose the child to the mental illness.

I'm ok with the estrangement and don't mind how it is now. I ensured that ds had a good childhood and education and did my job well. Life goes on![/quote]

Spoken like a true narcissist! So, you drove all the way to your son's college (probably unannounced) to drop off a present for his girlfriend's dog. Let me guess. You'd had a fight and were "love bombing" or you wanted to check up on things and used the gift as a reason to come by. Then, you told all his siblings he has mental health issues like his father but that they can still have a relationship with you even if he's "rejected you." We don't know his side--hence the quotation marks. Google "flying monkeys." And...you have a son in college, other children, and a newborn. This all hints at the fact you've had multiple relationships and your son was born into an unstable home life. Me thinks you need to do some soul searching, but never will. Your obvious response is going to be to say I'm looking too much into what you've said...however, anyone who's ever had to deal with narcissists know exactly what you've done. Your son is smart to keep his distance. Kudos to him.[/quote]

The fact that you imagined, and typed out, this wildly false scenario, tells me all I need to know about YOUR mental health.  Not going to even attempt to refute this because it's that insane.[/quote]

So, PP has a mental health problem...as does your son’s biological father, your son, AND your DIL. Pot meet kettle.[/quote]

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