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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]10:29 poster, I would not do it if I were you. We are also URM, UMC, and grandparents foot the bill. We would not do private if it weren’t for their generosity. The tuition is not the only expense, all of the activities, trips, homes, clothes, and cars do make a difference even for those who say they don’t care about that stuff. What I have seen is a natural drifting that happens over the years between the kids and it’s not because they are mean, it’s just the way the world works. When they were younger they barely noticed that someone had less than them as long as they all were into the same games on the playground. Families of similar socio-economic status start hanging together and the kids just spend more time together with those kids because that’s who goes with them on the ski trips, to the Caribbean, Disney, etc. I always feel like an imposter because my in law’s foot the bill so we are able to spend on the numerous activities, gear, and some of the group vacations otherwise we would not fit in. No one is mean or obnoxious about it but they will not invite your child to certain things because they will know you cannot afford it. It takes a certain type of child to deal with that day in and day out. Some are ok with it and respect the sacrifice their parents make for the education, others do start to resent it over time. Being an URM just makes it worse. Our kids know they are lucky but they also know that while our house is nice, it’s the smallest of their friends, we don’t have a Range Rover, and we have not nor will ever fly private. I just tell them those things are awesome and we should be so happy for those who have those great things, if you want that too, work hard and do well in school. These conversations will only get tougher over time. [/quote]

We also have these concerns. Would you have preferred doing private up to middle school and switching to a gifted magnet program (public) or going public in elementary so your kid could develop another social network before starting private?[/quote]

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