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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unless husbands are total assholes I have trouble understanding women who don’t occasionally have sex even if they aren’t in the mood. My libido is lower than my DH’s, he’s a good partner and a great dad. Sometimes he’ll initiate and while I’m not in the mood I can “fake it till I make it.” I don’t fake orgasms but I can be an enthusiastic partner even if I’m not initially into it. I do it bc it’s important to him and I love him.[/quote]

I've done that for a while and it didn't work. For the last couple of years in our marriage, I had sex with DH whenever he asked, regardless of how I felt.  What happened was at the end of two years, I became utterly numb sexually.  I orgasmed just fine with self-pleasure but DH's touch felt like nothing even when he tried. I guess that was because I came to think of myself as a provider of sexual pleasure and not its object.

So I stopped completely.  Took a long break.  Decided that I am never having sex again unless I feel like it.  It doesn't have to be throat-clutching but if I don't feel even a tiny spark of desire, I don't hesitate to say no.  It did wonders for my libido to be allowed to run free again. [/quote]

In other words, you gave him a hall pass?
So in your marriage, a spouse does only what they themselves totally “feel like” doing. So now when you really want to “talk about your day” your husband listens for 24 seconds then turns on SportsCenter. Because why should he care about your needs if he’s just not totally into it.

Your husband obviously now turns on SportsCenter after [/quote]

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