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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Slightly off-topic, but thank you to whoever posted the Organize365 podcast! This thread and the constructive advice inspired me to kick into high gear to declutter and get rid of things I have been holding onto “just in case”! The podcast is great! I saw you can sign up for her class, but I was too cheap to do it - but I am now thinking it might be worth it!

OP - just get started! I have a mini van-load of tho G’s getting ready to go to Goodwill just from clearing out starting this morning at 9. You can do this![/quote]

OP here:  +1

Thanks.  I looked at clutterbug too, and it’s a very helpful way of thinking of organizing by preferred style.  I like that it identifies a default setting.  I’m trying to see how to improve stuff, but I took a (mini) step today and finally put away the second Christmas tree.  The first was packed away quickly but this one lingered in the formal living room because we don’t go in there much...but I hear how y’all say that actually is not okay.  It’s stupid to pitch a fit over fairness and leave the house crazy looking so that everyone suffers.  I thought it was so unfair that I was doing all the daily cleaning.  I’m going to suck it up for a bit longer and see if DH contributes more if the clutter stays at bay in the main floor and master.  The garage and basement have to be lost causes for now.

I also want to thank the PP who said she has an inability to “see” the clutter (walk by and say “later”).  I think I’m the same.  I asked a neat friend over to point out some issues (stray baby sock under piano, one children’s book poking out from under credenza, head phones on dining room floor, guitar on dining room bench...not counting Christmas crafts on table).  I guess I saw that clutter (if I recognized it at all) as inert and not harming anyone and that I would get it sorted the next time we cleaned up for a party.  PPs say clutter is stressful, so I can do that as a habit like some PPs are suggesting.  My take was that if it bothered DH then he can damn well pick it up himself...we both work.  I don’t know if you are a bunch of soft hearts (maybe?) but i guess it just sounds fair to listen to how DH may just be emotionally reacting to clutter as a stressor because maybe he hates it that much.

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How much of the crap/clutter/“sale” items are purchased by your husband? I’ll bet he just wants you to stop.[/quote]

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