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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have realized that the really average things in life is not very average at all.  I have had a blissfully average life.  My parents were middle class and devoted to each other, As a result I had an average drama free childhood in an intact home. There was no affairs. no divorce, no domestic vil=olence, no addiction, no abuse.  I have two siblings who I was close to and continue to be close to. Again, typical aveargae sibling interaction.  There was no childhood disease and mentally and physically all of us were in good health.

Then I went to college and met my DH, Got my degree, went on to do my masters, got a job, and got married. Again, no drama. DH and I were each other's first love. No prior relationships, no catching STD, no pregnancies before marriage, not a single mom - single dad situation, no hooloing up with other people.  We had a straight forward, drama free, boring average relationship with no baggage.

DH and I, started with a low pay making around 80K, with both of us working in average companies in corporate America. There was nothing immoral or controversial about the products or the companies. It was not guns, or cancer drugs, or Fox News. Neither of us had student debt because our parents paid for our college.  We got pregnant easily with both of our kids, I left my job to raise them, bought a nice SFH at the bottom of the market in an average area. Both my kids were healthy. We did not have to pay for IVF or struggle with infertility. Our kids were healthy so we did not have to endure all that special ed parents endure. An average family with average kids. Nothing special about us.

My relationship with my ILs and Parents is average. We all get along and their is no drama.  We are not in any consumer debt because we are also careful and frugal, like our parents were. We wear average clothing from stores like Kohls and Macys, we go on average vacations in the US and sometimes abroad, staying in average hotels and not flying business class. We drive average mid-range cars that we keep for 10 years or more.  My kids go to public schools in magnet programs because they work hard. They have  good academic records but have average EC activities. They will go for STEM careers and we will help them with college just the way our middle class parents did. An average drama free college education.  They will aim for State colleges so that they can maximize their education dollars.

And I have realized that my average life of having intact, loving, functional families; a middle class HHI with no debt; a SFH in an affordable locatity; healthy kids; happy marriage; a college education; good health; being able to SAHM; good medical insurance; being able to fund my kids college and our retirement - all of this is exactly what the people are striving for. I have an average life and that makes me very blessed.

I am sure there are people with millions and there will never be a day when I want to be in their shoes. I am very satisfied with my very average life because this is not a life that everyone can get.  [/quote]

This is not average. You are privileged.  [/quote]

Being average is a privilege.  Maybe we should try to make America average like the Scandinavian countries instead of trying to make it great, polarized and imbalanced. 
 
I know that  my average life is not achieved by many people.  People on DCUM put down middle class, educated SAHMs in DMV all the time, but I know that most people want to be in my average shoes. Being born in an intact loving family, getting an education, being healthy, having a home, having a solid marriage and healthy kids, being functional, not having debt, being able fund retirement and college (by living somewhat frugally) all sounds mundane and average but for me its like winning the lottery of life. YMMV.
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