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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would bet that the step dad shops for none of these gifts. He probably tells the mother what to buy for his kids and doesn't have any idea what mom buys her own kid/SIL/grandchild.[/quote]

That is also a possibility. There are a number of possible scenarious. Maybe her step-children aren't crazy about their step-mother and by not lavishing her children with "their dad's" money, it keeps the peace.   
Perhaps the dad is accustomed to giving lavish gifts for his children and it never occurs to the mother to buy them for her own children.
Maybe she is afraid if she does give higher dollar value gifts to her children it will raise eyebrows.

Allegiance to biological children are very real. I found out not too long ago that my grandmother was my grandfather's second wife. She already had 2 teenage children when they got married, one of which was my mother. When my grandfather died he left his estate to his biologicial children. My grandmother had no grounds to contest.

My co-worker has 4 siblings. They all have children. She does not. Their grandparents only buy presents for the grandchildren at Christmas, never their own children/the parents. Her siblings only buy presents for the nieces and nephews, not each other.
The oldest grandchild/nephew is in junior high. Last year she was busy during the holidays and bought them all gift cards. They exchange them at the grandparents house at a Christmas get together. One sibling got a perturbed, pulled her aside and mentioned that her gift cards were thoughtless. She reminded him that every holiday their children go home with a pile of gifts before "Santa" arrives and she goes home with nothing simply because she doesn't have children and since that is the criteria for receiving gifts and he didn't appreciate hers, she will no longer buy them. She said he backpedalled and tried to use the holiday spirit excuse, but she said it would not have been an issue had he not made it one and had some perspective.   [/quote]

That's really crappy for her to spend all that money and no one ever get her anything.  More so, demanding it.  We have a friend/no kids who sends gifts all the time.  I send her a gift in return as she's so thoughtful in what she sends.[/quote]

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