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As much as some on DCUM want to push the narrative that we are all one big happy blended family the truth is that family members do distinguish between bio/step/half/adopted children and one category can be favored over another by parents, grandparents, siblings and other familiy members well into adulthood.

As for this story:

- Your mom knows full well that her step children aka her husband's bio kids/grandkids are getting million dollar gifts and you aka her bio children are getting the dollar store stuff.

- Your stepfather knows this as well.

-Your mom is not oblivious or dumb to the $$ disparities. She doesn't want to mess up her meal ticket in your step father.

-She is including you in the $$ present picking as her way to ease her guilt from the disparities and excuse herself from any fault in the matter and has convinced herself that you are fine with it because you go along with the present picking and listen to the stories.

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I'm the non-bio grandkids PP. Thank you for this. I don't know why DCUM pushes this "everyone is equal" narrative. If it didn't work for Communism, it's not working for individual families. Just because one of our sons was married to a woman who already had 4 kids by three different dads, doesn't make them our grandkids. Yes, we take them out when they visit but they shouldn't expect a single cent from our estate. I don't think why people consider this hurtful but it's the truth. [/quote]

Wow, you punish the children for the perceived sins of their parents.  Wow. [/quote]

How is the PP punishing the children? They don't get anything extra. If the son marries three different times and all of his wives have three kids, is PP supposed to be including all of them in her will? Not sure if you're on top of current affairs, but the divorce rate in this country is 50%. Stepgrandkids are no longer related should the marriage break up, which is very often. But the bio grandkids will always be in the picture because of kinship. So it makes sense to just focus their efforts and resources on them. SMH all these pearl clutchers.[/quote]

PP leaps to the will question but her original claim is that she doesn't give gifts to her bio grandchildren to avoid a guilt trip for not purchasing for the non bio grandchildren.

Wills are complicated and personal and no one has to know about it until you die. They remember how you were in real life to soothe any wounds the will creates. PP will apparently have a pack of grandkids, some bio, some not, all of whom will have been neglected by their grandparents. PP says that she deprives all of her grandkids of presents in order to stick it to the non bio grandkids.

PP is truly a horrible person. [b]I wonder how many people will show up to the will reading [/b]or the funeral when she and her stingy anti blended family self have departed. Maybe they just won't care since PP has been so absent and crotchety. [/quote]

A little off-topic but will readings aren't a real thing. My uncle died last year. My mom was his executor and his attorney said that will readings and all the drama will surprise attendees and secret relatives etc are fiction for tv and movies and has no bearing on who gets what. If people have questions and want to meet with an attorney in person, that is one thing, but if someone is left something in a will they are just receive notification, usually by registered mail.[/quote]

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