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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a friend going through a divirce. She is almost 60-one child still underage and living at home. She has been married for over 30 years. Quit work over 20 years ago when they started a family as husband worked insanely long hours in Big Law—as husband wanted her to do. It worked best fir the family and for his career fir her to remain home throughout the years. Now she is pushing 60, no job prospects, no marketable skills—she damn well deserves alimony. He benefited from few responsibilities at home and liked it that way. Fortunately, he agrees and will do the right thing by this woman he is throwing away because he wants to feel young again. [/quote]
How in the world does a 60 yo woman have an underage child?!  And how could this child be so young and needy as to prevent her from working? If she has more than 50% custody, she would be getting child support and she should go get damned job. Being a SAHM is a benefit of marriage: that ends when the marriage ends.

At 60, she (and her ex-husband both) should be nearing retirement..... when both would live off their retirement assets... that were already split 50/50 upon divorce. In other words, neither one would have any income, neither would deserve (or be able to pay) alimony, both are living off their retirement...and they have equal retirement.

As to all those benefits he received while they were married: why do you think he should provide ongoing benefits to her (alimony) while she has ceased providing any benefits to him?

If (if) any alimony is deserved, the law should require her to work an equal number of hours per week as her alimony-paying ex-husband. Oh and the day she retires from work, he too can retire (and stop paying alimony). Anything else would be totally unfair to him.[/quote] The man in this instance has no interest in retirement.  He loves his work and plans to continue indefinitely--so retirement won't be touched and likely left for children.   With regard to nearing 60 and still having a child at home--happens all the time.  Last child at 42 and and 56-58 --easy.    He definitely believes he should pay alimony so it is non-issue here.  He knows he benefited from her being home so he could pursue his career.  Not all men are assholes.[/quote]

If he cheated on her and wants to play the field at 60, yes, he's an asshole.  Not all men are but he is.  You don't leave your 60 year old spouse high and dry with no income and in poverty.  She should get half the assists and alimony for the rest of her life, child support for the minor child and he should pay college expenses.[/quote]

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