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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. To the poster who wondered if I'd made progress. The answer is: sort of. DS went away to camp for a month this past summer and was very homesick (he was so surprised!) This really helped our relationship. Also, once school stopped, he felt MUCH LESS stressed. We were in a bad cycle of stress, anxiety and power struggle. Once we got out of it- something I think we both wanted, we've been working on new patterns. Sometimes we slide back into old patterns but so far we're making progress in the right direction. I decided that, for the most part, I'm going to try to avoid controlling him. That doesn't feel entirely satisfying because teenagers can be really selfish jerks and I sometimes feel like I'm being a chump. At the same time, I'm trying to guide him/remind him without nagging about things I think are important. And I've done a lot of listening and empathizing. I've really tried to get inside his head and figure out why he was so unhappy and stressed out.

He does not want to go to therapy and I'm not making him, but I am going to therapy to help me deal with some of my feelings that come up around parenting a teen!

Anyway, all of this is to say, I don't have any answers, but yes, things are moving toward a better place.[/quote]

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