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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have 3 kids. MIL sends to each an outfit, a book, and a toy for each holiday for which Hallmark makes a card. This includes Thanksgiving, which apparently to her is the holiday where you are thankful not only for the things you have but also for the new things you get. MIL also brings an outfit, a book, and a toy for each child each time she visits. DS, 3, has started to greet her with "what present did you bring?" I can't be bothered to correct him. [/quote]
This makes you sound a lot worse than your MIL.[/quote]

Agree. She sounds lonely and like shopping for her grandkids gives her something to do. [/quote]

Do the math on how much stuff that is. I feel for the PP here--in large part because the fact that she probably is lonely and needs something to do is at play here. [b]Way better if MIL could find something more useful to do[/b].[/quote]

Useful according to who?  Leave MIL alone.  Shopping clearly keeps her happy.  Sorry you don't deem that useful enough.[/quote]

I'm the PP. I have read and occasionally contributed to the many, many threads pitting younger-generation DILs who don't particularly value the acquisition of stuff and whose kids have plenty already vs. the older-generation MILs who enjoy giving gifts and showing love by the bequeathing of stuff. It's intractable. I see both sides. But, this is a thread about slightly irritating things your ILs do and it is slightly (or perhaps VERY) irritating that she continues to inundate us with stuff that we don't want or need, after DH has asked her to tone it down, after I have asked her to tone it down, and after the older kids have very clearly showed that they are spoiled by her largesse. This is not a question of any of this being useful. It is not useful. I wind up rolling the less-recent gifts off to Goodwill (clothes), our elementary (books), and the trash (toys) after a couple weeks when they're not being used. [/quote]

I'm the first pp who said it makes the DIL look bad.  I actually can see how it would be irritating to get too much stuff.  But why can't the DIL still instruct her kid to say thank you and not to ask about the present first?  Why can't DIL see through the aggravation to realize that it is out of love (even if it's annoying)?[/quote]

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