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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Due to years of unresolved secondary infertility we have decided to adopt our second child. We completed a home study and have been waiting for 2 years already. A newborn child has become available who has Down Syndrome. We do not know much about this child yet other than he/she has been meeting his/her developmental milestones on time so far (he/she is 3 months old).

I have a biological son, age 5. I work part-time and we have excellent health insurance and my husband's job is long-term and guaranteed.

What would you do?[/quote]

OP - no. This child will need life long care for 50+ years. I'm in this situation now and it destroyed my mother's side of the family. None of her siblings has any interest or ability in taking on care of her brother with DS. They all resent how he absorbed everything as they grew up and the expectation/burden that they would someday become his caregivers. His mother has died and its up to the grandkids to figure out what to do. It has not been enjoyable taking in a 50+ year old man who is developmentally capable at a 10 year old level which is high functioning but still requires care as if he was an early elementary school child. I am constantly pursuing social security, medicare, state programs and any angle to provide for his medical care which becomes complicated as people with DS age. Its draining but the alternative is that he lives in a group home which is also not pleasant. Please don't put your son in this position because you want to be heroic. [/quote]

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