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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm team OP -- not because i think he is a nice guy to his wife, but because he's always been upfront.

It sounds like OP *loves* his wife and marriage solely because she is physically in proximity to him.  He acknowledges there were no sparks up front, clearly is suspicious that his wife moved to the big city to be with him after only a week, and it sounds like he only married her because they got pregnant.  I don't normally assume that women are trying to corner men into marriage, but OP's wife sounds like she did everything she could to put herself in front of OP and say "marry me!"  OP loves her enough to date her when she was around, and marry her when she was pregnant.  But i doubt he loved her enough to chase her, or marry her if there was no pregnancy.  That's fine, though.  As OP tells it, he told her he wasn't willing to leave the city to chase her.  It would have been obvious he was marrying her only because of the pregnancy.  OP's wife still pursued and agreed to this life, clearly knowing his love for her had a threshold, and then made the choice to bring more kids into it, stay in the city, and become a sahm.

OP doesn't, and never has, loved her enough to go to her small town.  That's okay.  It's always been known.

OP therefore shouldn't move to the small town (because his love for her, and thus their marriage, isn't strong enough to survive it).  The wife could theoretically move back home, or spend half the year there, but i don't know why OP should have to suffer for it (paying for her life of leisure, and losing the benefits of his kids being around).  [/quote]

Very profound observation, and a very harsh truth - OP[/quote]

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