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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just turned 42 (female) and this thread is terrifying me. Are you saying I'm going to lose interest in sex within the next ten years??

Right now I'm single and have no one to have sex with - I could easily find someone I'm sure to sleep with casually (plenty of options there), but I only like to have sex with men I really like and am in a monogamous relationship with and I'm not right now. Not having anyone to sleep with is driving me insane. Now I'm worried I'm wasting my last years.....[/quote]

Wanting and having are two different things.  You have the advantage of not having to compromise with someone, and never having to ask permission. No step kids, horrible in-laws, ex wives, husband supporting another family, or a guy that expects you to preform when you don't want to.

Everyone is different. Most women I know it often comes down to loss of attraction, or long term resentments.  Many I know in their 40's, 50's, and 60's have to stay married because of finances or retirement.  A small percentage are happily married.  Finding a decent guy is very difficult.  As you see from this thread there are creeps that will cheat, and [b]only got married for the constant sex.[/b] Until their wives figure them out.

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Nobody gets married JUST for sex.  The jokes about the bride smiling because she just gave her last BJ are well known to young men.  We get married (and risk the possibility of the sex drying up completely) because we love the women we marry. But sex isn't just a fringe benefit of marriage, it's one of the defining characteristics of marriage.  Without sex, it's not a marriage. Exceptions such as illness, etc. that make sex difficult or impossible do not change this for the vast majority of couples who have no such issues. Yeah, it's "to have and to hold, for better or worse."  When it's better you damn well need to have and hold or it WILL get worse. [/quote]

A good marriage is a healthy balance of all things. Yes many men do get married for the sex. Many couples get divorced because they mistake lust for love. Long term couples know sex is not all that important compared to many other things. [/quote]

As one half of a long term couple from a good marriage, I'm going offer the opinion that sex was and is vital to the success of our relationship.[/quote]

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