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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How could he have travelled more but been home more frequently than the wife who is not travelling and sometimes home M-T for dinner and always home F-Sun for dinner???[/quote]

He didn't.  That PP misquoted him, he didn't say that he was home more frequently, but that *when* he was home he was home for dinner more frequently.

And the angry PP who has come along in the last few pages and repeatedly accused OP's wife of "not parenting" or "ignoring her kids" missed that he says right in the OP that she gives all her attention to her kids, he's complaining he's left with "scraps."

Honestly OP needs to just outsource more and see about asking her if she can make an effort to leave work earlier.  Turning himself into a martyr over doing less than she did when she was supporting him, or trying to belittle her career (she only brings home low-six-figures, not the mid-six-figures that he was able to work up to by having a dedicated, supporting SAH spouse) are not good looks.

Congrats OP, you've reached the "or worse" part of "for better or for worse," when you have to play a supporting role for a period of your marriage.  Be grateful you have a spouse who did it for you and make it work.  The fact that you acknowledge you didn't thank her for her work when she was SAH but now want to be validated for handling dinners alone some weekdays means that if you really want to recalibrate, you should open with an apology, not a demand for sex and compliments.[/quote]

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