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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't you think OP has asked his DW many times what he can do to regain intimacy?  Nothing OP has said indicates that he has been a substandard husband or parenting partner.  Some people are simply born LL but in our society admitting this has become a taboo.  The crying and saying "I'm a bad wife" to escape the conversation are the smoking guns -- the lack of desire is DW's internal issue, not a response to OP's failings.  For her it is actually not an issue any more than being left-handed is for me.  He is the one making it an issue.  She would be perfectly content if he were not growing bitter and distant.  In the past HL spouses had to suffer in silence but those times are long gone.[/quote]
My ex strongly believed I was LL. It was his approach that killed my desire for him. I was saying to my ex that I simply don't need it. Reality was is that I really didn't want his attitude (mechanically it was fine sex, mentally it was not satisfying at all). [/quote]

But why didn't you tell your ex that? If you just say "oh I just don't need it" how in the world was he supposed to fix his issues (not saying he would but at least allow for the chance)?[/quote]
It's not like it happened out of a sudden. I will admit that I don't believe that marriage/relationship should require lots of effort. I give up fast if it's not easy. It is funny how it all interrelated: you don't say that the dinner was tasty and you enjoyed it (because why repeat it every time if you know it's good and I wouldn't eat it if it wasn't good) and that translates into "I am really not turned on by your entitled attitude".[/quote]

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