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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, you're not being selfish. If it's truly that important to you, your husband should be supportive. Men don't understand the impact having babies has on women. [/quote]

+1.  Stop sleeping with him.  Say you feel totally uninterested because of your body image.  I bet he'll give in.[/quote]

isn't this the norm?   all women stop sleeping with their husbands in their 40's and 50's.   the discussion boards on this site confirm that.  [/quote]
?  No, all women in their 40's /50s don't stop sleeping with their DHs.

-signed a 48 yr old female who still has sex regularly with her DH.  [/quote]

Do you feel attractive? Are you happy about the way you look? Just curious[/quote]
No, I don't feel very attractive without my clothes. I have small boobs and am self conscious about it. I am not overweight, but having large babies on my small frame did a number on my belly. I have the dreaded mother's apron over a c-section scar.   However, DH always tells me I'm beautiful, makes me feel cherished, and I know he loves me.

I would probably  have surgery to fix my belly if we were very wealthy and didn't have kids to take care of. But as it is, with a HHI $180K and two kids, I can't justify spending that much money (and time and have DH do all the childcare/cooking/housechores and work while I recover) just to make me feel better about myself.  I have better things to spend our money on right now, like our retirement (DH and I want to retire early) and our kids' college fund.
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So it’s a matter of money. BTW, I am very happy for you that your husband makes you feel great and loves you so much.[/quote]
PP here.. for me it is, but I don't think my DH would want me to do it (he's stated before that he wouldn't want me to have a boob job) because any kind of surgery  has risks, and he'd rather  have me whole and the way I am than risk complications from an unnecessary surgery that is all about vanity.  I think that is what OP's DH is saying, too. I can respect that.[/quote]

My DH is on board with anything I want to do cosmetically. He loves it when I dress up or improve my appearance in anyway. He is very visual and finds me very sexy. He is also very much into sports and physical appearance himself. He is also super into sex even at 46[/quote]

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