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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am so sick and tired of the fact that we host a ton of events all the time and no one reciprocates.  We're a married couple in our late 30s with a preschool aged child.  We have no local family and so making good friends is extremely important to us.  I have a lot of friends in gneral and entertain frequently at home and out.  We host an annual 4th of July party, Halloween party, New Year's Eve party, and Valentines' Party (all family friendly).  We spend a lot of money and time on these events, with really nice food, decorations, a lot of thought and planning going into them.

Not only are we not really invited to things like this, but people don't invite us over for simple play dates!  We host a regular playdate or playdate/dinner at least twice a month.  In addition we invite friends to join us out for dinner, festivals/fairs, playground, etc.

We are invited to a lot of birthday parties but that's not the same thing.

I'd say for every 20 invitations (for playdates, parties, holidays), we issue, we get one in return.

We continue to host because again, we have no local family/no supportive family, and making friends is very important to us (we're also not from this area originally).

For example, this Thanksgiving we have no plans.  We have no family to spend Thanksgiving with.  I let all my friends know this, hoping someone would invite us to join them (especially since we hosted a big Friendsgiving last year).  No one has.  I feel so depressed and let down about this.

It's incredibly discouraging that people do not reciprocate.  I just want people to invite us out somewhere to do something once in awhile.  A simple playdate.  Meeting at a playground.  Is that too much to ask?

Why don't people do this?

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Ignore the people who scold you for being let down, OP, these are the ones who greedily gobble invites but don't reciprocate. I have had this experience too, I have no idea why people are so rude.  We actually stopped entertaining because of it, and haven't seen some of our regular guests since then (it's been years). [/quote]

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