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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not sure. My kids are 4 years apart, though. The bigger age gap is awesome for us. I've gotten to really enjoy/focus on each one''s babyhood, and when I get babied-out with the little one, I can spend big-kid time with the big one.

I had the first at 33 and second at 37, so I had age somewhat on my side...I didn't feel desperate to have the second. Also, I wasn't sure I wanted a second for a long time...not until after the first turned 3. [/quote]

I would have felt so old having my first kid at 33.[/quote]

Is your peer group fairly uneducated? Not one of my friends had a baby before 30 due to advanced degrees and careers.[/quote]

+1.  [/quote]

I have a law degree and am a practicing lawyer. Ivy-educated. First kid at 29, third (and last) at 33. Sorry to disappoint.[/quote]

Being so well educated, seems like you would have known it's not healthy to have kids so close together.[/quote]

...and you should know it's not healthy to have a first pregnancy at 38, right?[/quote]

Of course. Who said anything about 38? That comment seems out of nowhere - what does spacing kids in a healthier way have to do with having a first kid at 38? Random. [/quote]

I had my first pregnancy at 38.  What exactly was unhealthy about it?  Do tell me.[/quote]

Higher risks for poor outcomes for mother and baby.[/quote]

And yet we both turned out fine.   Just because there's a chance of something bad happening doesn't mean it's unhealthy to do it.[/quote]

I'm glad you got lucky.[/quote]

Got lucky? 38 isn't even old anymore. The genetic risks aren't that high, and most docs treat 38-year-old moms exactly the same as 25-year-old moms. But why would a first pregnancy at 38 be more of a problem than a 3rd or 4th?

[b]BTW, most pregnancies that make it to or near term, by a huge factor, are normal and healthy [/b]in every age group.[/quote]

The point is that making it to near or full term is a much riskier and much more uncertain endeavor at 38 than at younger ages. You are significantly more likely to have complications, chromosomal issues, etc at older ages. 38 is not young, sorry friend.[/quote]

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