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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Doing your best is to not bring a unrelated strange man in your teens home to cohabitate till the kids are up and out. I'm not saying this as some kind of morality play or shaming thing. It's for the consideration of making ones life better for the long haul. The resentment, damage and hurt inside the teen boys could last forever and bring sadness forever. Could you imagine how stupid you would feel in the statistically highly likely event of divorcing husband number 2?  Is it even worth the risk? When you make the plunge to override the comfortable home of your teen boys with this new marriage you almost can't even afford to have a fight with your new spouse. The kids will be like oh great.. Fighting with the guy we don't want in the house ... Kick him out.  It's like you have to act happier than you are and walk on eggshells to avoid any chance the relationship sours and you look like a fool.  Nobody is worth that crap.[/quote]

Okay, so your stance is that if people divorce or are widowed with children, they should not remarry until the kids are out of the house. Period.[/quote]

It's always super risky. In the case of children that are dead set against it the whole thing is on super shaky ground. No way to start a marriage .. It's like you have a gun to your head to look like your happy when you may not be because you are a fool it it collapses after the fuss you made.  It's not fair but in most cases, bringing a strange man into a house is more traumatic than a father bringing in a new woman since men are more likely to be abusive and are naturally a dominant member of the household.  Obviously if you are floundering financially, you may have no choice but in general, the precious and few years you spend with children make up a small percentage of your total life. They are worth maxing out the closeness and comfortable secure environment.[/quote]

Do you speak from experience on any side of this, or are you just speculating?

Your assumptions are:

1) Women who remarry are under extra pressure to look happy
2) Women who remarry are putting their kids in danger because men are dominant and abusers
3) Women who remarry are doing so because they need the money

You've made it pretty clear that you think very little of divorced women who remarry and any male who would be interested in remarrying them. Why is that? Personal baggage?[/quote]

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