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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]You're not talking about ethics, you're talking about convenience. Don't get the two confused. It's more CONVENIENT to keep everything in tact because god forbid, you had to strike out on your own and you couldn't live off your spouses money, or god forbid you had to split your assets. So, it's not an ethical decision, it's a convenient one. And ethically speaking, cheating on your spouse isn't really in the realm of ethical.[/quote]

Cheating on your spouse who isn't interested in sex is a heck of a lot more ethical than cheating your kids out of financial and emotional security because you divorced over a lack of sex.

Or, you know, if you don't want to get cheated on, have sex with your spouse.
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Or if you don't want to get screwed financially don't cheat.[/quote]

This is a roundabout argument. I understand both sides. If you don't want to get cheated on, have sex with your spouse. However, I also understand the camp that says, why should I have to force myself to have sex when I don't want to... There is no winner. Which, is why I say. Find someone you are sexually compatible with.

Case in point, I dated a girl for a bit who only did two positions. Never gave blow jobs, and really wasn't that interested in sex. WE BROKE UP. I didn't try to change her or trick myself into believing that it would get better. And there was nothing wrong with her decision to stick to two positions or to have a low drive. We just weren't compatible. Simple. Found someone who shared my sexual needs, and she found someone who shared her sexual needs. No biggie.[/quote]

Here's a true case in point. My good friend divorced her husband after 14 years of marriage. We all told her not to. One reason was very little sex, others included his kids and his mother. All were no big deal because she didn't have to work and he treated her great. Nothing they couldn't work out.
She went back East to visit family and hooked up with a old bf from college. Well they had a ton of sex according to her, and got along pretty well. Within a year she divorced her husband and moved out East. I'm going to say about 7 mo later I get a call from her saying she thinks she made a mistake. This guy wasn't as financially sound and there were other problems. She also got sick of having sex 27/7. I told her to try and get back with ex asap so she flew back here, but it was too late. He found out she cheated from FB or someone that told him. It was a sad situation that didn't end well with her. Her husband was the greatest guy. Her daughter came over and said her mom went from Filet Mignon to hamburger. [/quote]

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