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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you might want to find out from your son (or from your husband who will lie his a** off) what exactly took place when your son and his half sister spent time together.  Was the other woman there?  I can imagine this scenario really clearly, and I'm guessing that the affair started when you were neck deep in new motherhood, your husband told the Other Woman all about how you were so difficult and demanding and not sexy anymore and she was so amazing and the two of them were going to run off together and start a new life and then it didn't happen right away and oops!  somehow this woman got pregnant too.  I'm sure your husband was telling her all along how he was so committed to her and if she could just wait for the right time then he would leave you and yadda yadda yadda and then she starts wanting to live more like a family because - you know - she is a mother now and he says ok and starts bringing your son over.  And he has this other little family and maybe she puts out more than you do but he just can't quite bring himself to leave you even though she is wanting more and more and oops!  now you are pregnant again and this other woman is really questioning if he is going to leave you.  You know they talked together behind your back -- but in front of your son - about how you aren't meeting his needs and she is so amazing.  And they probably fought in front of him, too.  This violation is not just a violation to you; it is an unbelievable violation of your son, and put him in an incredibly unfair position.  Do you know what the status is of the other woman in his life?  REALLY?  Do you know? You won't ever know.  Not in this situation.  By staying with him, you will likely create more instability in your children's lives, not less.  The best thing that can happen now is for you to establish a new family of three, with all the stability and love you can muster.  Let your husband, who is 100% mentally a mess at this point, work through his issues on his own, with visitation of his various children, while you build a life for them.  You may be still young - even 35 can be young - and idealistic about what you think you can live with.  But at some point, 40?  50?  You are going to want more for yourself, because you deserve it, and you only live once.  If you really want to make the best decision both for your children and for yourself, walk away now, show strength and stability to your kids, and leave the freak show behind you.  [/quote]

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