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This writing is a whole lot of fantasy, fluff and babble. I am so glad you have this rose colored glasses outlook on life and destiny and family structure.  I honestly think you are delusional, and in no way am I trying to be mean or rude towards you. But if you were my friend or sister, I would say the same thing out of 100% concern.  Having this philosophical what will be will be uber forgiving its all in the past attitude makes you a complete doormat, you actually have zero control.  Your children will pay the price whether you leave or stay.  And wait until other people put 2 and 2 together, their friends, their friends' parents, the neighbors, your own family (siblings, parents) etc.  You cannot live in this cocoon where as long as you keep everything all hunky dory and keep up appearances that the kids will remain unscathed.  Most of it is out of your control, and seems like it always has been.  And I honestly wonder about your mental state to be so laissez faire.  I feel very badly for you, and even worse for your children. I really hope this is a troll because if this is real and OP actually has these thought patterns, there is little hope.[/quote]

You misunderstood me.  My outlook is not at all rose-colored or steeped in forgiveness.  Staying and forgiveness are two separate things but that's really a completely separate discussion, which I'm not having here.

I am not interested in "keeping up appearances." Our life as a family unit has changed.  It will affect the kids. We are building it anew in a sense. We need to figure out the way forward that both acknowledges the new reality, and minimizes any damage to the kids by framing this development in a way they can understand, among other things.  That's what I'm interested in.

I don't really care about other people putting two and two together. I haven't done anything wrong - what's it to me? I think you're overestimating how much other people care about you.  I couldn't even name all our neighbors' kids, for chrissakes, and the idea that I would ever be able to figure out anything private from their life is ridiculous. I simply don't have the time. There's too many blended families out there to keep track of who's who.  The attitudes of other people will never be a factor in my decision-making. My family will support me whatever I do. But that's beside the point. [/quote]

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