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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a man, I found the book helpful to realizing some of my own blind spots with respect to female colleagues and also to making sure that I am a "real partner" to my wife and share the household duties 50/50.  These aren't revolutionary concepts, and no she isn't exactly breaking new ground.  But I thought the book did a good job of highlighting some of the imbalances a lot of well-intentioned men are sometimes oblivious to.  It was something that helped me learn and grow.

I honestly didn't find the book preachy or grating like so many of you obviously did.  I don't think she ever said anything like "success is easy if you just do 1, 2, and 3.  I interpreted her message more as "These are some obstacles that ambitious, driven women are facing in today's workplace.  Here are some strategies/devices to deal with them."

Did the book solve all of women's problems?  No.  Was it a useful contribution? Yes.

It is so easy to criticize and condemn.  It's much harder to do something constructive.[/quote]

I am the poster that was 50/50 on liking her book. Yes, she has some good points. But the other 50 is a real turn off, imagine to us her comments sound like this... when you have parent die and you are crying and grieving and Sheryl says "oh I know how you feel my cat died" .... CAT ... she is trying to be empathetic and helpful but it's like UM WHAT.[/quote]

Can you direct me to something that she said that is analogous to the your parent dying = my cat dying type of comment?  That's just totally inconsistent with what I remember her book to be about, that I don't even understand how to respond.  I think that's a real distortion of what she wrote and what her message is.  [/quote]

I don't have access to her book right now but here is an example from her speech at Berkley....
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Everyone who has made it through Cal has already experienced some disappointment. You wanted an A but you got a B. OK, let’s be honest—you got an A- but you’re still mad. You applied for an internship at Facebook, but you only got one from Google. She was the love of your life… but then she swiped left.[/i]

Here are my disappointments or some of my friends disappointments in college:

1. Best friend at Standford's boyfriend cheated on her, she got herpes, called hysterical, I called her mom, she flew out but she killed herself before her mom arrived.
2. Room mates mom got cancer and could not afford college, moved home and cared fro her mom and worked as a waitress, did not graduate until she was 25.
3. Friend got hit by a car crossing the street lost 1 leg.
4. People had parents die during college
5. People get pregnant during college.

Is a B a disappointment? Is working for Google a disappointment?

My son's school has something where kids talk about the challenges in life... some of them were sexually molested as a child and now live with panic attacks, some physically abused, losing a parent, getting cancer as a child.... this is at a highly regarded school.

The best she had was not getting an internship at Facebook.  [/quote]

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