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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here -- DS is napping and DH is biking.  I have a friend coming over (with kid) to go out for a walk this morning.  Thanks for all the advice to everyone.  I have lots to consider and think about.  I had my DH read through the posts (when it was at about 4 pages long) and we had a good conversation about issues.  I think the solo TV at night really does make me sad, and someone asked if I could imagine spending 90% of our time together as a family.  Honestly, I can't, and that makes me sad, too.  We married, had a child, and moved to the 'burbs in our late 30s, and so our adjustment to a non-urban, non-traveling, more "settled" life is hard for both of us, I think.  The biking is important to DH, and I can't ask him to stop.  It keeps him healthy and sane, and I want to encourage it.  But, I do want him to be more engaged with us as a family when he is home and to spend more time intentionally doing fun activities as a family, rather than just running errands or hanging out with other friends.  Thanks again.[/quote]

I think you need to work as a couple to figure out how you can best prioritize your needs as individuals and as a family.  No one (a counselor, a friend, or the Mighty DCUM Gods and Goddesses ;-) ) can determine that for you.

Once you have those defined as a couple, then you can use time management tools to better manage the priorities.  You will likely need to master the use of these tools (especially when the kids' birthday party circuit and classes/sports leagues comes into play).

It might be time to dust off the Covey book.  :-)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_management
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