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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, I do think that somone who spends the bulk of his off work time out of the house doing intensive biking with friends or partying with colleagues is not committed to his wife and child. When the same guy watches tv in another part of the house unless mandated to hang with wife and kid on one of his few nights home, that is not someone invested in spending time with them. When that same guy fills in some of the few remaining hours together as a family by having friends over, then I do think that there are intimacy issues. He is avoiding intimacy with his wife and child by filling his time with other activities and people.

When OP says that she can't imagine the 3 of them spending most of their off time together as a family, and that that realization makes her feel sad, I'll wildly speculate that there isn't a huge amount of intimacy in their marrriage. She confirmed that he watches a lot of tv when they are alone together and that she feels lonely. She is trying to force him to engage as a family man with the schedule, the issue isn't that she needs whole days by herself. There was no mention of couple time, instead that he watches tv when they are alone together or invites friends over, or goes out biking or with colleagues. This is not a man comfortable with a close connection with his wife. I think for a lot of people busy schedules, travel, etc, hides this stuff and when the family unit doesn't really come together it gets hard to ignore. OP doesn't just need scheduling ideas, OP needs a DH who wants to have her and their baby as the center of his life, as reflected in how he spends his time.[/quote]

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