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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think either of you is being ridiculous, but the "No" always wins in this particular argument. Sorry.[/quote]
+1 And being SAHM doesn't mean that your "yes" has more weight than his "no." That is not a healthy way to look at having a child.[/quote]

His no means more than your yes because he's paying for everything. He would be paying for you to spend money you didn't earn on a child he didn't want. No means no.[/quote]

This is ridiculous and rude to all SAHMs. You may not like the OP but there is no reason to be this insulting to SAHMs in general. [/quote]

How is it insulting? She is a dependent.[/quote]

NP. It's incredibly insulting. I am a dependent, if you look at it that way, but "he would be paying for you to spend money you didn't earn" is such a crass way to describe a family situation. What my dh earns is OUR money, and what I spend is OUR money. It's not even to do with the 4th child, it's your seeming inability to view a marriage with only one wage earner as an equal partnership. I'm sorry you can't imagine it, but I'm fortunate to have just that. [/quote]

The problem with most, not all, sah relationships is that the wife lhas lost the means to support herself independently and the husband has more power in the relationship as  the sole wage earner, some men resent the stress even if there is plenty of money,  It is quite clear that you feel there is enough money for another child, but perhaps your husband disagrees.   Perhaps he doesn't not enjoy the baby toddler stage as much as you do.  Perhaps he thinks the relationship between you and him is better without the drudgery of caring for small children.  There are many reasons not to have a fourth child, you are just not willing to hear them.[/quote]

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