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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, why are you attracted to exeptionally petite Asian women? What can they give you that others can't? Also, maybe you can move to California or overseas to find what you are looking for..[/quote]
Because most American (white) women are overweight these days once you get to 40s... Just a fact. Look at Tiger Mom. She's still killing it at 50.[/quote]

Yuck. You have it all figured out, don't you, and you just can't find that person who will fit the story you've made up for yourself. I dated a lot before meeting my husband. I met a few like you and ran as fast as possible. [/quote]

Sorry OP, but I agree with the "yuck" sentiment. First of all, do you live in DC?  Look around at the white women in their 40s and 50s in this area. 80% of them are thin, if not too skinny. This is a very fit, health conscious area so chances are anyone you meet now in her late 20s/early 30s is not going to change body type significantly. Second, so what if she does put on a few lbs (including your exceptionally tiny Asian)?  You are going to contemplate divorcing your soul mate for that?  What if you get a beer belly, come down with a serious illness, etc. Is it OK for her to leave you?  I don't think you quite get the "for better or for worse" part of the vows. Third, your focus on someone "exceptionally petite" and Asian or dark-haired, etc. is definitely a fetish. i have never met a straight man who was only sexually attracted to one very narrow physical type. Are you sure about your sexuality?  Seems like you are looking for a trophy, not a life partner.[/quote]

This is interesting, because my husband says every man he's known who exclusively 
dates "exceptionally petite" Asian women was closeted and eventually came out as gay. [/quote]

You may be on to something. OP has intentionally put himself into a box with standards and behavior that makes it  nearly impossible to get the woman he supposedly wants. He's had long term relationships with women , but those have mysteriously ended.  This is a safe way to never come out of the closet, to his family he's looking, but he's so serious about marriage he has to make sure it's right-that is why he is picky. In reality right can only be with the man of his dreams. I feel a lot of compassion for people like OP, it's no life to live to know you can't truly be yourself without risking  losing your family. How sad![/quote]

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