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[quote=Anonymous][quote=singledadmclean][quote=Anonymous]I am a child of parents with that sort of age difference.  The advice I transmit to you from my mother is Do Not Marry Him.  They've been married forever. My mom is a sprightly 72 now.  My dad is a frail late eighties.  Here is what mom had to say:

- know that if you marry him, you will live by his age and by his timeline. You will do things that men his age want to do.

- initially he will try to act young and do young things to please you, but as he grows comfortable, he will revert to his natural behavior, which goes with his age.

- because of the above, you will age prematurely. That is, if you are 30, you will live like a 42-year old.

- by way of a personal anecdote, my dad now requires close supervision and care, and cannot live alone. Mom is going strong and would love more than anything to be with her grandchildren (and adult children), but unfortunately cannot leave dad on his own to stay with us. She resents that very much and says he makes her live an old life.

Short summary: this age gap is fine in the beginning but a very bad deal for the young woman (good deal for the guy, though). [/quote]

Lesson learned: don't marry a resentful woman.  Who is going to care for her when she is in her late 80s and can't live alone?  [/quote]

Resenting this setup is a perfectly normal reaction.  As I said, this is a bad deal for the younger woman, and it gets worse with time.

Marrying her has been an excellent deal for my father.

As for who will care for her when she's 80, it sure as hell won't be my father. [/quote]

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