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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you all arguing about schedules and hours? You don't need to prove something how your schedule is superior to someone else. People have different lives, so what[/quote]

Well this whole thread is about how many hours you spend with your kids so....[/quote]

And of course SAHM’s spend more, so the whole argument is stupid. [/quote]

The difference is nominal.[/quote]

It really depends on both the type of work the working parent is doing and how demanding it is (ie: cushy WFH office gig vs. Big Law or busy medical practice or long commute) and also how much the SAHM is farming out her kids either through nearly full day preschool (ie: 9-2pm 5 days a week) or a "part-time nanny" or whatever. We all know different families on all ends of these spectrums. [/quote]

+1 and for SAHMs of school age children there is a wide variety of involvement. Some use their time to volunteer at the school and spend the whole summer with kids. Some are picking kids up right ght after school and spending the entire afternoon engaging with them. Others aren't doing any of those things. I know plenty of SAHMs who are spending A LOT of time with their school age kids, or directly engaged with their schools or activities, and not only do working parents not do all that but they often benefit from it.

And before you yell at me yes I also know working parents who run PTAs and volunteer a lot. But you need a specific kind of personality and job for that. Most working parents cannot do all that.[/quote]

Most SAHM's do not volunteer at school or run the PTA.

I don't think what happens after school is SAHM/WOHM related. Enganged moms are engaged and it has nothing to do with the working status.[/quote]

My kids are in private and pretty much every parent with a position in our parents association until like 2nd is a SAHM. The heads of the auction are SAH. I volunteer about 20 hours total throughout the year (I WOH) but I can’t commit to the level of involvement required and I don’t want to drop the ball have a bunch of parents hate me.[/quote]

Well I can commit at that level so I’m there and no the majority are not SAHM. Especially the things that don’t require M-F meetings like PTA, treasurer, sports committee (almost all working dads), holiday party planning, pancakes fundraiser, the auction (needs working parents with connections to get stuff to auction), sports coaches, teacher appreciation day. All mostly working parents or at least 50/50. Especially since SAHMs have no childcare day or evening.[/quote]

I live in NYC and at my kids’ private if you’re working you have a high powered job. Maybe you live a LCOL area or an area where many people have low key jobs. I can’t attend meetings from 9-10 am and 1-3 pm regularly. Nor can I commit to fiddling with signup genius for hours or responding to other parents questions, etc. [/quote]

Not PP but another parent with kids in private in the DMV who knows very few SAHMs who are involved in school-related stuff. For one thing, we don't have meetings from 9-10 and 1-3 regularly. For another, it takes less than five minutes to set up a Sign Up Genius. I've been a room mom for five years in a row and it's one of the least time-consuming things I do. (I work full-time as a lawyer for a big firm). [/quote]

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