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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your SIL is a bitch. I would ignore. If she was somehow expecting lots of help from you, she is a terrible hostess. [/quote]

Wow, I would never expect to just eat and drink and be catered to as a guest. Hosting is a lot of work. I'm so glad my guests always offer to contribute. I do the lion's share, but in our family, everyone helps and is grateful for being hosted.[/quote]

If they are helping, they are not a guest and you are not a hostess. Call it "having family over" if it makes you feel better, but it's not hospitality. [/quote]

You must not be invited to visit often; I can see why. When I visit FRIENDS and have FRIENDS stay with me, yes, the hosts do the lion's share of work, but the guests definitely offer to help and get involved, at least in some small way. I would never dream of watching my hosts cook me dinner or breakfast without at least offering to make a salad or set the table. [/quote]

I have never seen a deadweight houseguest in any of my places the last 20 years.  People bring gifts, they clean up, they take us out to dinner, they leave a note sometimes.

But when our British aunt/uncle some, they don't tell us how long (it is 3 weeks!), they bring something but then proceed to needs rides, groceries bought for them 3x a week, etc.  We feel taken advantage of and that they are rude, especially since we work fulltime and have three young children. It's a real PITA to care for two adult dependents for anything over a weekend, big expense too. [/quote]

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