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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is it weird to offer my good China, which is a complete set? My DIL doesn't have enough to set for our whole family. I'm just trying to be nice.[/quote]

I don't think you're real at this point. But, assuming you are real, your poor DIL. No wonder she sent out an evite.

Yes it is really, really weird to offer to bring plates upon which to serve dinner to the home of another adult. It's not nice at all. It's crazy controlling. Man. Your poor DIL![/quote]

It's also very insulting, that she isn't smart enough or well bred enough to know how to set a table.  It says "your dishes aren't good enough and you aren't good enough, and I am and my dishes are better, so I'm bringing mine". When you are invited to your friends house for a dinner party, do you bring your China?  WTH?    A guest should be gracious, I don't care if my hostess food on a pape plate, I am a guest in someone else's home, don't judge and be kind. [/quote]

If my MIL knew I was having a ton of people over, she would offer to bring extra dishes. I can't imagine being insulted by the offer.

I don't have enough dishes to serve 25 people. She knows I don't have enough dishes to serve 25 people. She offers to bring some. Great, I would prefer that over having to buy additional dishes myself.

OP, just ask her if she needs you to bring extra dishes, and if she says yes, let her specify the type. Who cares if it's a matching set or not?[/quote]

You should wait to be asked, or you could say to the hostess "can I please bring anything?"  And if she says "yes, china" then bring china. DIL Is a grown woman, she can figure out what she needs and how to get it.  If she needs dishes, she can ask to borrow some.  Or she can buy some, maybe she had been waiting for an excuse to get more place settings or a new set.  Who knows.  But it ain't MIL's business to shove her own China down DIL's throat.  If DIL says, hey MIL, would you bring your China to dinner? Then you're good to go, but offering to bring China, is kind of ridiculous.  Because they all have to match?

And my autocorrect keeps writing China like this, sorry.[/quote]

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