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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel no connection without sex.  If I'm not getting regular sex or my wife goes long bouts of not wanting sex I withdraw emotionally.  Kind of counter-productive but I can't help the way I feel.

38 year old male [/quote]

Yup. [b]For men, intimacy results from sex (doesn't have to result, but won't result without it). Take away the sex, the intimacy evaporates.

For women, sex results from intimacy. Take away the intimacy, the sex evaporates[/b].[/quote]

This, x1000. The core difference between men and women in terms of sex. But once the sex evaporates, it is likely to materialize elsewhere for one, the other, or both. [/quote]
Take away sex and intimacy dies. [/quote]

Not really, not if you study human sexuality.

Men are socialized to believe they are manly if they obtain sex when they want it. When they don't they get frustrated, feel used and start to feel emasculated.

They don't understand their emotions but they were socialize that anger is the only emotion that is "okay" for men to express. It comes out as being passive aggressive ... like not filling up the tank, not holding their wife's hand, watching sports instead of talking to their wife.

Women are in tune to emotions, when the "gas does not get filled up" they sense their H is angry and they are socialized to "smooth things out" so they have sex.

The marriage turns into a fee for service sexual game and then real intimacy dies... the one that has not connection to sex.[/quote]

Bullshit. Men are socialized to believe that they only get sex if they gain female approval. When they don't get female approval, they try ramping up the gifts, "choreplay" and other supplications, and then can't figure out why her vagina seems dryer than ever.

If women were actually "in tune to emotions" then they'd realize exactly what is being said here -- if you want emotional intimacy from a man, give him more sex.

NP here. I have been offering sex to my DH for days ! He's like a funny roommate. He is very comfortable in our 19 years relationship. Low sex drive last few years for him. 2x month would be fine for him. [/quote]

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