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Are you suggesting that #1 has no discretionary income, particularly if they live in a place where the cost of living is low?  In this example, I'm not suggesting that #1 is at poverty level.[/quote]
We know a family living in the Midwest. The husband had a job in IT with pay alot lower than around here, and wife decided to "stay at home for the kids". The older kid got a scholarship to a good local private HS, did very well, got admitted into a Top-50 school, also private, and received financial aid. The younger kid went to the state flagship. I don't know if there is fin aid involved.
My kids, from a 2 income family, went to FCPS and the older one did not even consider private colleges. This was partly because we could not justify paying for private given the quality of VA schools (this kid was not Ivy material). Still, it rankled that I had to bust my a$$ at work while this woman sat on hers all those years, and the outcomes are similar.[/quote]

+1.  Exactly.  In this scenario, you are the only one expected to make a sacrifice....and you'll get the holier-than-thou for thinking otherwise.[/quote]

Honestly, staying at home for the kids sounds like the real sacrifice to me, LOL. Also, depending on where they were living in the midwest....also possibly a sacrifice. And of course, all these sacrifices are available to PP, too. There are plenty of jobs in other, less costly, parts of the country.

I'm puzzled, though, that this bothers some people so much. It "rankles" that PP had to bust her ass at work while someone else did something else and got a similar outcome? Are you just learning now, at your advanced age, that there are no guarantees in life and that things aren't always "fair?" How about the fact that there are other people around who work a helluva lot harder than you ever have, cleaning toilets e.g., but they don't get to live in as nice a house as you do? How come that kind of unfairness doesn't bother you?[/quote]
I am the PP. 
Please don't get me wrong. I respect the choice to SAH, particularly while the kids are young. However, when the kids are in MS/HS most of the day, and you have expensive tastes and your DH actually has to work on the side at some point, on top of his full-time job, SAH is lazy and selfish, not a sacrifice. She, able-bodied and educated, did not even seek a PT job or start a business. And in the end, her choices were rewarded.
I don't begrudge finaid to a family where both parents contribute by either working, for whatever meager wage, or dedicating their time to actually raising their kids. This story, however, is not about them.[/quote]

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