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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a DH whose wife reacted very negatively when I tried to share fantasies, I can tell you that he will find a way to explore them with or without you.  I would posit that the more vehemently you reject him for his fantasies, the more threatening to your marriage his outlet will be.  The man bared his soul to you and you shut him down and basically told him he is a deviant.

What could possibly go wrong? [/quote]

Another DH who had a very common fantasy shot down by my wife, with a "that's weird" attached.  Rest assured, I stopped sharing fantasies.[b] I found someone online who has the same reciprocal fantasy so it's a safe outlet although the temptation to meet irl is strong.
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Op, I don't think you realize how destructive you are being to your relationship[/quote]

[b]Did you ever tell your wife how much you were hurt by having your fantasies shut down by her?  She must have done so more than once and with enough disdain for you to go outside your marriage.  And how did you find this online friend?  Someone you know in real life?[/b][/quote]

It wasn't just one fantasy that was shot down (it was an escort fantasy, FWIW).  It was also that I bought her lingerie that gathered dust.  Sex toys that never came out.  Sex talk that turned into a monologue.  Basically, I was solely responsible for our sex life and it got tiresome after a while with an uninterested partner.

I met an amazing woman online whose dynamic meshed with mine on a site similar to this.  Total unicorn.  Very affirming.  Bonus for my wife - she is no longer annoyed by my sexuality.....[/quote]

(Assuming you're the first rejected DH quoted above.) So you ended up having a real life affair with the woman you met online? How is that working out for your marriage? Honest question, no snark intended.[/quote]

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