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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What I find so sad from this thread is this need for the PARENTS to have this social setting. It is like you live and die by your kids at birth (helicopters, tigers, or a combo of) so your only adult associations are with their friends or teammates parents. Do you know how pathetic that is?

You live your life. Let your kids choose their life. Stop trying to encourage, create, schedule your kid's lives. Give them suggestions or opportunities but only keep them in something if they are passionate.

A coach once told us "If your child isn't ready for practice without your reminders and you getting all their gear/water for them - this isn't their sport, it is yours. Any age. 5 or 15. It doesn't matter. If they truly love it, they will get ready on their own and be ready and excited to go."

I loved it and I will never forget it.

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I completely disagree with much of this, especially for young children.  My 6 year old has trouble getting himself out the door for anything, even the activity that I know he loves and talks about all the time!  Maybe what the coach said is true for a teenager, but certainly not for all young elementary kids.  Some kids are good at getting their shit together and some aren't.  It doesn't mean they don't love what they are doing.  I seriously don't know any 6-8 year olds who are about to go on the internet and schedule and figure out their own classes and activities.  Of course a parent has to do that!  They don't all even know what options are out their for them yet!

I also don't think it's pathetic at all for parents to be involved with their kids.  I would never push soccer on a kid who didn't want to be their for my own social benefit.  Similarly, I would not disallow my child from an activity they love because I don't love the parent community.  However, if my kid likes doing soccer, and I have to always be there, of course I may end up being more involved with the parents who are there week after the week.  Are you the parent who is sitting there with their face in the phone and a stick up their ass unwilling to socialize with the other parents?  Personally, I think it is nice to be friendly with the other parents.  I also like knowing the parents of the children where my children go to their house to play.  I'm sorry if you think this is "helicopter" of me.

I SAH and do not work.  So naturally, most of my friends are the parents of my child's friends.  That does not make one pathetic, and if they enjoy those parents why is that such a problem for you?  I enjoy my life and feel no need to get a different one.  I choose to be very involved with my kids and was so happy to have an involved mom when I was young.  To each their own.  [/quote]

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