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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The best advice someone posted is to consider the impact to your future children if you think you may have them. I went out of my way many times to be in attendance at my IL's kids' events and now that I have kids who are considerably younger but love their cousins, they can't make a trip for them. For anything. Any season, any reason. Now that their kids are graduating from HS - 3 kids back to back - we won't go to any length to be there. Too bad! Had my SIL and BIL ever made any effort, I'd love to be there to support their kids. By never coming, they defined the relationship in a certain way.[/quote]

Well, it sounds like this PP attending events did not make any difference. If you end up having the youngest children in the family, people are already "kid event" fatigued (even the parents) and sometimes they don't want to bother and just want to rest. The best idea would be for people not to have these expectations and just roll with what happens and what you enjoy doing.

I think OP screwed up by not having one of them attend the wedding and one stay with the dog. Now, they are being made to "pay the price" to make up for that mistake. I would not think it was worth it to travel that far for a kids party held in a kids venue, but maybe one that was held at home with relatives/parents would be worth making the trip for. If OP is being severely guilted, they could decide just to make the trip. Then, the next time, they can say--we came last time and stayed for XX hours, and saw little Larla for 5 minutes before she passed out from exhaustion at the end of the party, so we'll pass on a kid-venue party, thanks.[/quote]

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