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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First of all, I think it's tacky to invite out of town guests to a party place b-day party without also inviting them to your home.  It's like they're saying, drive all this way, drop off the present, and we may get a few minutes to speak with you in between wrangling kids and taking pictures.

That being said, now that I'm "old" I would almost surely make the drive to something like this.  I would plan something fun (or just a nice lunch) in the area either before or after and invite MIL/FIL to join us in those plans.  I might stay over night in a nice hotel the night before and explore the city. [b] The older I get the more I appreciate seeing family members and getting together to celebrate (no matter what is being celebrated).  Life is short and you never know how much time you have left with people.[/b]
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I feel exactly the same way. This seems like immature behavior on the part of OP. But she sounds generally immature, so I'm guessing she's young and lacks perspective. [/quote]

Nope.  It is unrealistic, immature, and rude to expect someone to travel a distance for a child's party if you aren't willing to host them at your home and expect them only to go to some kid's venue and then high-tail it home.  I don't see how OP is immature at all.  I say all of this as an "old" person who loves spending time with family and totally agrees with the bolded statement from the first quoted PP.  I would never ask our relatives that drive from a distance to do so for a few hours at a kids bday place and then send them packing.  [/quote]

The older I get the less willing I am to drive long distances for things like a children's party. In my 20's I thought nothing of road tripping for any reason. Not any more. Don't get me wrong, I'll travel for something significant, a old friends baby shower, a surprise 40th birthday party, just the other day I drove six hours round trip to visit a friend who had a stoke for 30 minutes and I'm not sure she knew I was there.  But a 2 hour jump party?  Life is short, down time is precious and that kid doesn't care.   [/quote]

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