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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you are already swimming in the money you have gotten. I'm a SAHM and I get like an iota of what you get, and I have no idea where the money we're supposedly saving is going.  I too am afraid to ask for more, but I think you have it pretty good.[/quote]

This thread totally started wrong. I should not have mentioned our HHI or my disabled brother. What I wanted to know was whether SAHMs received money from their DH since SAHMs don't earn an income. I was hoping some SAHMs woupld chime in and say their DH put $X into their retirement account or receive $Y per month to use as they please (mani/pedi, gifts, going out).

I started the conversation with DH last night. Did not mention my family at all. Think DH suspects I want to be able to spend money on that childhood friend. If I wanted to go on a girlfriend getaway to Europe with a friend, DH would have no problem with it. If I was willing to stay at a 4 star hotel instead of a 5 star hotel but pay for my friend's plane ticket, I want to be able to have that option. I would rather have a budget per month or year to do as I please.[/quote]

I think you have realized that is not typical.  I am a SAHM and I do not have an allowance.  I am not a child.  I spend money as I need to for my family or myself within reason and he does the same.  It has never been an issue.  If you didn't mention your situation, this is probably how most people would answer.  I don't know of any SAHM friends who have an allowance either (though I'm sure there must be some out there that do), but I am not an employee of my husband, and I would find the entire arrangement strange.

I understand wanting to be generous, but you are way out there.  If I wanted to go away with a wealthy girlfriend, and she wanted to go to Europe, but I could only afford Puerto Rico, then we would go to Puerto Rico.  I would never allow my friend to pay for me, and I think your "generosity" is a bit strange.  It's one thing to pay to support family, but to be spending such extravagant amounts on friends is REALLY not typical and strange.

Also, if I flipped this around, and my husband wanted to support his brother, at the expense of my own children's college accounts, lifestyle, and inheritance, I would be annoyed.  I side with your DH on this entire situation. [/quote]

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