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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My BF has told me that he can't afford to get me a nice rock even though we have been dating for 4 years and have been talking marriage for 3. I just feel hurt because he could've saved about 7k easily by now but he didn't and now he wants to get me a whatever Rock just because. [/quote]

Let him buy whatever he wants for you. I assume he isn't splurging for expensive new cars or toys for himself, right?

Frankly the engagement ring is a reflection of the fiance/husband, and your commitment of course. So he's only embarrassing himself if he's selectively being a cheapskate or has some issue with diamonds.

If you want diamond earrings or another diamond ring on your right hand, you can buy that!

Separately, dating for 4 years and speaking about marriage for 3 years sounds AWFUL. Are you sure he's not just throwing out lame excuses and statements in efforts to get you to dump him? Is he passive aggressive like that?  Then he can turn around and say XYZ dumped me for something trivial like a small engagement ring, or not wanting to wait 6 more months, or not liking my financial position, or not liking how I leave stale pizza everywhere (even tho it's something you have talked and talked about.) [/quote]

OP here. Yes. He started talking about wanting babies with me around the one year mark and I was super excited! I couldn't wait and expected an engagement at least by the end of the year...December came and went and no engagement.

And now we're going to have been dating for 4 years this June and only now he's like you should tell your father about how serious we are so we can get married.

At this point, I frankly feel...just...let down and disappointed. He also says how he can't afford to get me a big ring, just so I know and I'm not disappointed.

Who says that??

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He doesn't want to marry you. I gave my BF an ultimatum after we were in our 30s and had been together 3 years. I said, don't marry me if you don't want, but I'm tired of waiting around for you. Proposal three months later, married almost 20 years.[/quote]

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