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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know who cheats more, conservatives or liberals. However, I was surprised with ultra conservative views of family coming from the self-proclaimed liberal crowd here. Honestly, I expected DCUM to be way more accepting of poly-amorous and other unorthodox life choices.

Liberals (all the way to communists) have traditionally been advocating rather promiscuous behavior. I just heard an interesting snippet on Alexandra Kollontai on NPR. You'd think progressive women of DCUM would follow suite and think some side piece for their man is NBD (as long as he brings his money home to his kids).[/quote]

Polyamory and cheating both involve multiple sex partners, but cheating is not polyamory.  Polyamory involves the consent of all participating parties.  And that means freely given informed consent, not consent given reluctantly because of the fear of economic or social consequences, etc.

Cheating is quite different from polyamory.  The cheater, by definition, is getting a superficial consent to sex from one party, the victim, by receipt and fraud.  The cheater continues to have sex with one partner with whom he has previously agreed to monogamy, while actively hiding the fact that he is having sex with another partner at the same time.  This means that the cheater is having non-consensual sex with his victim.

Cheating is not "progressive".  It is not an "unorthodox life choice".  It is not progressive or liberal sexual politics in any way because by definition it involves actively deceiving someone in order to engage in sex with them.  The whole arc of women's rights and sexual liberty has been to increase the degree of honesty, freedom and consent involved in sex, not to continue the old traditions of sex out of obligation or fear or due to societal pressure.  [/quote]

^damn autocorrect -- should be "deceit and fraud" not "receipt and fraud".  I don't think I've ever given anyone a "receipt" for sex. [/quote]

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