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Just curious, how did you find out? I am a PP that doesn't believe in secrets and is clear about that with my friends. Occasionally I will talk to my spouse about how to help a friend or assist (ie, a friend going through a breakup who has been sleeping around and I am worried). [b]I will tell him if they revealed something scandalous they did in the bedroom that he might think was interesting[/b]. Random things that my friends certainly wouldn't tell him but he also would never bring up in their presence. Like part of the idea of no secrets is that my husband isn't going around blabbing my friend's business. We talk to each other but our conversations stop with each other too.

I think a better way to phrase how a lot of us feel about this isn't, 'why do you feel like you have to tell your spouse anything' and more 'do you feel comfortable intentionally keeping something secret from your spouse.' I don't tell him everything, and sometimes I might leave something out about my family that might make things tense or make someone feel uncomfortable but there is never anything that I would REFUSE to tell him. I think that is the line that a lot of us are describing. [/quote]

I can't believe you would tell him something they did in the bedroom SIMPLY because he would find it INTERESTING!
Holy shit.
You are the worst friend, ever. The WORST.
Even if he isn't going to blab to other friends ... YOU JUST BLABBED. 
This isn't about REFUSING to tell him -- he should never ask for details that a friend confided in you -- this is about you fucking gossiping to your husband.
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Lol my friends are aware and fine with it.  This is not a new stance I'm taking to them. And what is your husband to you? My husband is my best friend, I talk to him about everything. If my friend tried something crazy in the bedroom maybe I'm interested in trying it, maybe I want to see if he's interested.  I talk to him about what's on my mind sexually I talk to him about things I'm worried about. [b]He is my confidante in life. 
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I mean you clearly would not like to be friends with me but you don't know my life or my friends so please don't make assumptions[/quote]

And that is fine.  My DH is my confidant also - as it pertains to ME.  He knows everything about ME.  But when it comes to friends and relatives, we are on a "need to know" basis with each other.  A friend confiding in you and you turning around and divulging the info to your DH is NOT the same thing.  You can paint that as admirable if you want but it is actually unhealthy both for your marriage and those other "friendships."  [/quote]

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