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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Based on a lot of threads from women, the top issue for them is "my DH won't help more with chores/childcare"

Such BS.  It is as painful to be low drive as it is frustrating to be high drive.  I would give anything to fix it. I want my spouse to be happy. [b]If all I had to do to flip the switch was hire a babysitter and a housekeeper to help out, don't you think I would? [/b]What an insane thing to suggest and women are not saying that.  If that is your take away you are not paying attention.  This is a far more complicated subject than a dude not loading the dishwasher.  [/quote]

Lots of truth here. There is some percentage of sex-troubled marriages where the LD wife really wants to have sex but, because her husband is a lazy slob, she just can't relax a minute to get in the mood. But it can't be that high of a percentage -- especially among people with a decent income. A sexually frustrated guy is generally pretty motivated, and it if were as simple as doing or hiring out some of her work to make her sexually energetic, that'd get done pretty fast. But, once the chores are done, then it's a series of moving goal posts explaining why she doesn't want sex. Often enough, she doesn't really know. She wants to know. Maybe she thinks she knows. But, a lot of the explanations turn out to be rationalizations -- even where her intentions are really good.

Incompatible sex drives in a marriage is a tough subject. It's common. And it has the power to damage marriages deeply. That's why you see the subject crop up here so often. [/quote]

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